Re: "Happiness only real when shared"
Postby someguy » Mon Oct 08, 2012 10:33 am
"Happiness only real when shared" is what I take home from Into the wild...
This is what I included in my speech to my wife when I married her, 2 days ago. In fact, it was the core of my speech. It sums up what I have come to understand in life. I'm 32 now, I'm together with my wife for about 10 years, we have 2 daughters (4 & 3). My life before her was one of total freedom, rebellion, and solitude preferably all alone in nature and I was happy; restlessly in search of the most purest moments and places. I have also felt what Chris must have felt when he had this epiphany; it is not enough to just find these moments and places yourself, you need to share it to make it real.
I'm a restless guy, I want to be away from all the shit, I want purity, I want to be alone; there is a part of me that will always feel like this. My wife has to deal with this, there is no point in playing pretend, she knows it and I love her deeply because she understands. I know it cannot easy for her to accept that.
I've used this quote to reconcile these 2 sides of me: the restless, selfish side and the part that knows it's pointless to go solo. I've used the quote to tell her I want to share everything with her; when the feeling of "unrest" is creeping in again, I remember this quote and realize it's a romantic fiction to hunt out solo in search of purity.
I've enjoyed "Into the wild" and willingly got carried away with the romantic atmosphere, but I've come to understand it's a fiction, you cannot achieve perfect happiness when going solo...
(goddamnit, writing this makes me all emotional again )
“Alex here. (...)
Ron, I really enjoy all the help you have given me and the times we spent together. I hope that you will not be too depressed by our parting. It may be a very long time before we see each other again. But providing that I get through the Alaskan Deal in one piece you will be hearing form me again in the future. I’d like to repeat the advice I gave you before, in that I think you really should make a radical change in your lifestyle and begin to boldly do things which you may previously never have thought of doing or been to hesitant to attempt. So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservatism, all of which may appear to give one piece of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.
(...) Once you become accustomed to such a life you will see its full meaning and its incredible beauty.
(...) Don’t settle down and sit in one place. Move around, be nomadic, make each day a new horizon.
(...) You are wrong if you think joy emanates only or principally from human relationships. God has placed it all around us. It is in everything and anything we might experience. We just have to have the courage to turn against our habitual lifestyle and engage in unconventional living.
Ron, I really hope that as soon as you can you will get out of Salton City, put a little camper on the back of your pickup, and start seeing some of the great work that God has done here in the American West. you will see things and meet people and there is much to learn from them. And you must do it economy style, no motels, do your own cooking, as a general rule spend as little as possible and you will enjoy it much more immensely. I hope that the next time I see you, you will be a new man with a vast array of new adventures and experiences behind you. Don’t hesitate or allow yourself to make excuses. Just get out and do it. Just get out and do it. You will be very, very glad that you did.
Take care Ron,
― Jon Krakauer